I came across a very important article today, which has led me to an interesting website (linked below.)
In her urgent article Sacred Sexuality, Liora of Twin Flames writes about the possibility and importance of sacredness in sex. She emphasizes the roles of reverence, abandon, and selflessness in lovemaking, restoring the experience to its true roots: the center of cosmic love, mutual worship, and unity with each other and the universe.
I personally believe that sex has been torn down by society, probably since the advent of agriculture, which allowed patriarchy and class inequality based on personal ownership to take the scene. Once religious doctrines gained momentum, sweeping over the nations with their condemnations of sex for love, sexuality became closeted, restricted in free expression only to the "lowest rungs" of society and thus shamed.
Liora points out that deliberate, sacred lovemaking is cleansed of the "guilt-ridden" and "mechanical" qualities it has acquired over the centuries.
You can read her list of suggestions for a spiritual sexual experience in her article, which is linked below; however, I would like to add one footnote:
If you find that ritual is not right for you or your partner, or if you are unable to engage in a ritual for whatever reason, that's okay. In my experience, ritual is not essential for a fulfilling and deeply spiritual union. While it is liberating to many, it is not necessarily right--or key--for everyone.
It's possible--nay, inevitable!-- to have a mutual transcendental experience as long as you enter the bed with a clear, still mind, a heart filled with love and compassion, and, perhaps most importantly, a playful and generous attitude.
Your partner is a god/dess, and you are too. It is key to keep this in mind. It is key to maintain an exploring touch. Liora writes about this as well.
As long as you go in with a light-hearted attitude and a belief in the sacredness and nature of the act, the act has a potential to crescendo into something beautiful.
The experience has to be shared. It cannot be one-sided. One attitude partly instilled by gender politics is one of conquering. Either the man dominates the woman and consumes her, or the woman seduces the man, conquering his heart or maleness. This is a misled approach to sexuality which creates tension and shame.
To approach each other as equals and sex as a willful, balanced exchange of energy, yin and yang, whatever--THAT is a key ingredient.
In short, there are many techniques to use to restore sex its dignity and cultivate a transcendental experience... but if you don't have a smudge stick handy, simply summon up the qualities you carry within you at all times: sharing, compassion, equality, playfulness, nonjudgment, and love.
To read Liora's article on sacred sexuality in full, along with a lovely list of ideas and guidelines for purifying the mind and space, go to:
The Facebook Article.
Check out her website as well: twinflame1111.com. Liora offers an extensive list of audio resources, an e-book, and her reflections on the meaning of twin flames, self-love, and other important questions.
